Sunday, September 19, 2010

Something For The Many That Stand Alone, For What ever The Reason Being, For Thos e Of Us That Are Mostly MISUNDERSTOOD....



Don't let what others say or do bother you, I turn it into a Positive, cause...

If you do, your letting them get the very best of you. Sometimes you can ignore it, (this is something I always try to do, I try hard to avoid the Person and or persons , Places or Things.)  but it's not always easy. Life is too short, as the saying goes. Don't sweat the small stuff, as the other saying goes. Those are two great sayings to go by. Be strong! (this I have no other choice but to be, I have no one but me) Cause when we give in to those people who are negative, we are giving the power to them. As Dr. Phil says, "Take your power back!" The best thing you can do for yourself in these situations is to be optimistic. It's mind over matter, so don't mind what doesn't matter. This I find has been the hardest for me because I care about people and how they feel about me, but I found that not everyone is going to like you, what your ideals and/or your ways. These people who are out to put you down, simply have nothing better to do with themselves. And or this is there only way of lifting themselves. And if you are a sensitive person, like I'm finding myself to be, it can really effect you. It can wear you down and stress you out. I have found myself so down at times I will let days go by without getting out of bed, checking my emails, and I will even cut of my phone. Just trying to deal with it all. This is what a person that suffer with severe depression is like. But I have taught myself  Don't let it! I counter act with Read positive affirmations and being positive. I have learned, Don't dwell on it and "brush it off your shoulders" as rapper Jay-Z would put it. I have to brush shoulders and Knee's and I give myself Positive Self Talk, Cause if I don't who will. Doing this can do wonders for how you react to other people.  To be confident in yourself  (it had been hard for me to confidence in the world that I grew up in, all the tragedies I have had to face, the negative people that had surrounded me most of my teenage life and into the earlier parts of women hood. And Still to this day) But now I have become a warrior at Staying Strong. First I think about what was said, then search the truths and/or Non truths of it, I keep the good parts  then let the negatives parts of it quickly fade.... cause Tomorrows a Brand Spanking Ass NEW DAY! And if Plan A doesn't pan out move on to Plan B! If you have gone through what I go through on a day to day basis You WILL ALWAYS Have A Plan, A,B,C, LOL!  People do not let negative people, situation and or there comments bother you, sometimes they don't even know that what they just said to you wasn't nice,(I myself is guilty of this, I'll say something not really thinking about how it was said and or how it will effect, maybe I was trying to get a laugh and or a point across either way, I may have used my words wrongly and upset someone not really trying to). But then there are those that do know exactly what they are saying isn't nice and they really don't care. Those People Don't give the any space in your mind Delete there Asses Just as fast as they open there mouths. Put up your Fire Wall! But as far as yourself you just continue in the positive and the more positive you are the less likely you will let negative comments bother you and the less likely people will be out to throw darts at you. Don't let them rob you of your happiness. Be Strong Minded, Be Positive even when some Ass try to bring you down, Be Optimistic!